Stupid Husband

So this weekend was my 30th birthday weekend. I think its a pretty big deal. He told me that he wanted to take me away from the weekend. My Mum offered to fly in to watch our son. Yes everything sounds great. But he did nothing to plan this weekend away. He asked a couple of his buddies for hotel recommendations, and then did nothing about it. The night before we were supposed to go he still hadn't done anything towards planning for the weekend. I was pissed. I didn't say anything, but I was pissed. So i booked the room. He said that he didn't know what I liked. WTF???? We have been married for 4 years, and known each other for 9. He still doesn't know what I like. This comment really pissed me off.

So instead of looking like an idiot in front of my Mum by having her come out for no reason I decided that I would go ahead and book the hotel. Then he also made a fuss about what we were going to do. I suggested going to a baseball game. Not my fav thing to do, but something we both could do together. Then he gets pissy at the Internet and decides to storm upstairs, and doesn't book tickets. I hop on the computer and have no issues. So there it is I have to book my whole weekend getaway. I am mad but I don't make an issue of it as I don't want to ruin our time away.

On my actual birthday I don't get a card. I don't get a gift of any kind. (I don't really want to get started on that because I barely gt a happy mothers day out of his mouth on mothers day) If it wasn't for my mother or one of my friends I am sure I wouldn't have had a cake.

So the plan today was that we were going to go out and buy my present. All I wanted was this new digital SLR camera. I had asked for gift cards to best buy, and that's what I got from my friends and our families. Husband was supposed to make up the difference, and this was his gift to me. He begrudgingly comes out to the store with me. Then tells me that he doesn't understand why I want this, since I'm not going to be a professional. Then says that if we buy the one that I want, then we will have to eat ramen noodles for the rest of the month. This is not true at all. I had over half the price of the camera in gift cards, and a coupon for the camera. Then he proceeds to walk off an pay no attention. When I get mad and want to leave the store, he's like "why? get what you want. when have I ever said no to you?" This makes me mad. I leave the store with tears in my eyes.

He then goes on to say whats the big deal. Its probably just hormones. I'm getting sick of this bullshit. I've tried to be understanding. What are you going to go puke now aren't you? (Like me puking during pregnancy is my fault. First when I was sick he didn't believe that I was sick until he actually saw me puking and called me a faker. Yeah that's really understanding.)Then tells me that I am making too big of a deal over this all, and none of this is his fault.

So we get home he packs a bag and leaves. He tells me that when I want to talk then to call him. I'm not frigging calling him. Who is making a big frigging deal over it now. Person that leaves or the one that has to be at home caring for your children???? Sorry that I don't think its appropriate to argue about stuff inside a store, or in the car on the way home with our 3 year old in the back seat.

This whole weekend has pissed me off. I don't know why I ever expect to enjoy my birthday, because they always suck. Next year I don't think I even want to celebrate.